Try to be positive!
Why is negativity so appealing? It captures our attention like nothing else, and is the inspiration for so many of our actions. I can list right now over 50 words associated with negative emotions but damned if I can come up with more than 10 or 15 positive ones. Try, it's tough. It would be ok if we expressed more positive emotions despite having fewer of them, but we don't. People show their irritation, anger, sorrow and grief much more readily than they will show their gratitude, joy and happiness. Ok, yes, most people will smile and be polite before they will be rude and flippant, but I am talking about real emotions here not our everyday show face.
Are we afraid? Afraid that if we speak of the joy we are experiencing and express it, that it will disappear? Afraid we will seem boastful or unempathetic to the woes of our friends? Maybe some feel they have no right to truly feel happy, they haven't really earned it. Whatever it is, it's certainly not contributing to the general welfare of anyone, us walking around sullen or distraught. We don't invite others to share their happiness with us when all we speak of is our misery. Maybe if we choose to focus more of our energy on expressing positive emotions, then we will learn to identify them and notice them more often. Maybe those around us will catch on, and begin to act more positively around us too. Misery loves company, well I think that happiness would like some too.
I am not preaching either. I am about the most negative, pessimistic, cynical women you know...and I have no reason to be and I don't want others to feel that way aroud me. So help me out and I'll help you. To get us started, here's a list of all the positive emotions, states, words...whatever, I could find (I googled this too..lol). Let's start using them!
Are we afraid? Afraid that if we speak of the joy we are experiencing and express it, that it will disappear? Afraid we will seem boastful or unempathetic to the woes of our friends? Maybe some feel they have no right to truly feel happy, they haven't really earned it. Whatever it is, it's certainly not contributing to the general welfare of anyone, us walking around sullen or distraught. We don't invite others to share their happiness with us when all we speak of is our misery. Maybe if we choose to focus more of our energy on expressing positive emotions, then we will learn to identify them and notice them more often. Maybe those around us will catch on, and begin to act more positively around us too. Misery loves company, well I think that happiness would like some too.
I am not preaching either. I am about the most negative, pessimistic, cynical women you know...and I have no reason to be and I don't want others to feel that way aroud me. So help me out and I'll help you. To get us started, here's a list of all the positive emotions, states, words...whatever, I could find (I googled this too..lol). Let's start using them!
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It is easy to find the negative because it is "in our face". It takes more energy to look past it and find the positive. For every action there is an opposite and equal reaction. So, for every negative there is a positive. When Christ is the center of your world the holy spirit directs our eyes on the positive. "all things work together for good for those who love christ". All Men/women have both positive and negative traits. We can choose to see the positive give praise for that and human nature is such that we will continue to do those things in order to recieve the positive feed back we get from others. As the positive in someone grows the negative is deminished.
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