Is there "One"?
It may be lonliness that spurs this question, it may be a true longing to know. Is there one out there for me? One true love that I am destined to find and be with? Logically I say no, and I do believe that answer. But that piece of my heart and being that desires to be loved wholly and completely wants to say yes.
When you love someone so deeply and completely despite everything wrong about it how can you justify that to yourself? When you know it doesn't work, but it feels so right. It feels as though the cosmos has led you to the other and no matter what has happened between you, it still feels the same. How can I deny that there isn't a purpose for all of it, a calling to be with that other, come hell or high water.
Of course, it is lonliness, or the fear of it, that leads to this dillusional state of heart. We want to be accepted so badly and to feel the love we know we deserve it can be easy to say to ourselves "Yes this is it." Even when the reality is only a sad and twisted version of what we see through our hearts eye. We want to believe there is more for us than a solitary, purposeless existence..that we are part of something greater than ourselves. Love can be an easy answer, but is it right.
No matter who we find ourselves with, it will never be perfect. We will clash in some ways and compliment in others. A person could live their whole lives hopping from one to the next searching for the "right one" or we can do as the song says and "Love the one you're with," hoping we aren't missing out on what would be better or "right." Love is not always compatible and compatibility does not always breed love, we can only guess.
Where do you really decide that something is "right" enough fo a true commitment? As 50% of Americans can attest; they thought they knew, and turned out to be wrong...so you can't say "I'll just know." It doesn't seem safe or sane to rely on there being the "one," but is seems equally ridiculous to rely on logic....hm.
When you love someone so deeply and completely despite everything wrong about it how can you justify that to yourself? When you know it doesn't work, but it feels so right. It feels as though the cosmos has led you to the other and no matter what has happened between you, it still feels the same. How can I deny that there isn't a purpose for all of it, a calling to be with that other, come hell or high water.
Of course, it is lonliness, or the fear of it, that leads to this dillusional state of heart. We want to be accepted so badly and to feel the love we know we deserve it can be easy to say to ourselves "Yes this is it." Even when the reality is only a sad and twisted version of what we see through our hearts eye. We want to believe there is more for us than a solitary, purposeless existence..that we are part of something greater than ourselves. Love can be an easy answer, but is it right.
No matter who we find ourselves with, it will never be perfect. We will clash in some ways and compliment in others. A person could live their whole lives hopping from one to the next searching for the "right one" or we can do as the song says and "Love the one you're with," hoping we aren't missing out on what would be better or "right." Love is not always compatible and compatibility does not always breed love, we can only guess.
Where do you really decide that something is "right" enough fo a true commitment? As 50% of Americans can attest; they thought they knew, and turned out to be wrong...so you can't say "I'll just know." It doesn't seem safe or sane to rely on there being the "one," but is seems equally ridiculous to rely on logic....hm.
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