simple truths

There are plenty of times where holding your ground and refusing to back down is the right thing to do.  Holding your ground is different than demanding someone else let you stand on their ground. In the sensitive nature of the words spoken between two people in love, when one has found their bravery; To risk uttering the hardest words a person could say to one they still love- "We are through;" To respect this is love. Your words may express your desires, but only if respect accompany them. You can not stand your ground on land you are no longer invited to stand on, no matter what access you had before. When someone who cares for you, but had to chose caring for themselves more, is forced to speak those hard words twice... Their courage may fail, and you might bend their will. But a bent will doesn't mean a changed mind. That is not love nor respect. It's bullying at best. You may win back their space, but their heart won't be in it.

The moment of silence between a decision and its reality, is similar to the sensation of free-falling.  Your primal mind is in panic mode, grasping for the safety of what was familiar. Your higher mind is trying to rationalize to yourself, 'We planned this, its ok. We have a chute.' This works about as well as trying to rationalize to a toddler having a melt-down. While all this chaos ensues inside your mind, it sits in stark contrast to the stillness and silence that surrounds you at this >*point*< in time. No going back. The decision has been made. Now we must wait for how it unfolds. The consequences are now beyond our control. This is what I imagine it would be like after swallowing the bottle of pills, knowing you can't go back but forgetting why you thought this was a good idea- having no control to stop it. Our brains are wired to find safety in predictability. Our minds scream at us to halt anytime a major change is coming.  This is why we stay in bad relation...

 There is much confusion in the world. Bad things happen to good people. Sometimes what seems good- can later be a curse. Sometimes, what seems bad, may end up the biggest blessing. Faith may give you some peace, solving half of the confusion- by giving you an outer post to focus your path. But the other half? How can you be sure that God has planned for your life the events that are occurring? How can we hold onto faith during trying times and be sure God is working in our lives toward a greater purpose? You may ask, 'Is this really what God wants for my life?" We may wrestle with the nagging thought- 'I did this to myself.' And that may be true. Remember, God does not punish us for our sins, as some religions may like to preach. The natural consequence of our sins is plenty. After all, what sin has ever worked in favor of a person- though it may feel that way temporarily- it will surely come back to you or those around you, having caused a negative ripple effect. Sin...