simple truths

There are plenty of times where holding your ground and refusing to back down is the right thing to do.  Holding your ground is different than demanding someone else let you stand on their ground. In the sensitive nature of the words spoken between two people in love, when one has found their bravery; To risk uttering the hardest words a person could say to one they still love- "We are through;" To respect this is love. Your words may express your desires, but only if respect accompany them. You can not stand your ground on land you are no longer invited to stand on, no matter what access you had before. When someone who cares for you, but had to chose caring for themselves more, is forced to speak those hard words twice... Their courage may fail, and you might bend their will. But a bent will doesn't mean a changed mind. That is not love nor respect. It's bullying at best. You may win back their space, but their heart won't be in it.

The moment of silence between a decision and its reality, is similar to the sensation of free-falling.  Your primal mind is in panic mode, grasping for the safety of what was familiar. Your higher mind is trying to rationalize to yourself, 'We planned this, its ok. We have a chute.' This works about as well as trying to rationalize to a toddler having a melt-down. While all this chaos ensues inside your mind, it sits in stark contrast to the stillness and silence that surrounds you at this >*point*< in time. No going back. The decision has been made. Now we must wait for how it unfolds. The consequences are now beyond our control. This is what I imagine it would be like after swallowing the bottle of pills, knowing you can't go back but forgetting why you thought this was a good idea- having no control to stop it. Our brains are wired to find safety in predictability. Our minds scream at us to halt anytime a major change is coming.  This is why we stay in bad relation...

 You've been caught in the midst of a conversation about the latest new tech gadget, or at least you think that's what they're talking about. You hear the word 'cache' and you just smile and nod- not wanting to appear uninformed, assuming that most others know about this new thing. Then you see this word appear on your phone and your computer. By now, you probably have a hazy sense of its meaning, still assuming you must be the only one left out of the loop. You're not I promise. I am a computer whiz, and I really can't describe what a cache is exactly, and when it became so important. I am guessing it must be something that 'catches' your data or holds it.  Only, that word is actually pronounced, 'cash-ay.' Who knew? Probably no one you ever heard say it. Is our tech world maybe just a grander, more real life, version of, 'The Emperor's New Wardrobe.' One of my children's favorite tales, it is about an Emperor who gets duped ...